A lot of people say that getting married early is a “bad idea,” as if it means you’re somehow “missing out.” More and more I’ve noticed a bias against people who get married early. People love to rush to judgement about two people who decide they’ve found “the one” at a young age and don’t care that they’re a little younger than average when they did it.
That’s actually a more recent development. In the past, it was normal for women to be wed before they were 20, or even earlier. However, the standards of society have shifted, and now it seems like anyone who gets married before 25 is considered abnormal or irrational and foolish.
The stereotype is that people who get married young are old fashioned, ignorant, and probably going to get divorced. And I don’t really think that’s okay, or fair.
In fact, I think there are a lot of great benefits to getting married young, and I think that couples who tie the knot when they’re younger aged get a bum rap for absolutely no reason.
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Here are the top 10 reasons I think getting married young isn’t nearly as bad as it’s made out to be:
1. You grow up with each other
For most people who get married young, they’ve known that person most (or all) of their life. They know their history, their character, and the way they’ve responded to challenges.
They develop together, and grow from childhood into adulthood together, and are uniquely suited to taking on the obstacles that life throws at you, together.
2. You don’t have as much baggage
When you’re younger, you’re going to naturally have less baggage than when you’re older. Collecting baggage is just a given when it comes to going through life.
So for couples who get married young, they’re bringing a lot less baggage into the relationship. Less time spent single means less exes, means less baggage, means less stress in the relationship.
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3. It’s easier to integrate yourselves with each other
When you get married young, you’re still deciding the person you want to be and how you want to live your life. Therefore, you don’t have a lot of deeply ingrained habits, attitudes, and patterns that you have to change and adjust to make room for each other.
Instead, your patterns and habits will grow out of the time you share with each other, rather than have to be changed for the other person. And the bond you form will only grow stronger.
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4. You figure out the tough stuff early
When you get married early, you haven’t spent a decade or two looking forward to how “perfect” marriage is going to be when you get there. You still might have expectations, but they won’t have the weight of years of hope behind them.
That way, it’s easier to shoulder when life takes your expectations, spins them upside down, and smacks them into the sidewalk. You don’t have as much riding on them because you haven’t held them for nearly as long.
That makes it much easier to roll with life’s punches, and learn lessons about life, relationships, and marriage way earlier than most other people do.
5. Cheap weddings are expected
C’mon, you’re young. No one’s expecting you to throw a huge wedding bash, and you get to save all that money.
6. You’re not as likely to be let down
For a lot of people, marriage is the holy grail that they’ve been waiting for all their lives. It’s about “the one” coming into their lives and making everything perfect, and it’s smooth sailing and happily ever after from here on out.
Whoops.
When you get married young, sure you might be idealistic, but you haven’t been building it up in your head for decades as “the thing that’s going to make your life perfect.” You don’t even know what life has in store for you yet, so your expectations aren’t going to be nearly as high.
7. You get to share a lot more achievements
As you get older, most people get more financially secure and start building better lives for themselves. When you get married late, often times a lot of the hard work has already been done, and thus the rewards have already been experienced.
But when you get married early, you get to go through all that progress, accomplishment, and achievement together. You get to experience what it’s like to … (continued – Click to keep reading 10 Benefits To Getting Married Young)
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If you are a guy the best age to get married is…never. It’s great for women and kids but there is nothing in it for us guys.
all this might be a good reason to marry young but the disadvantage is too much, married is from 25 and above.
The list is truly encouraging… A lot of young people are very scared of getting married early… But it is quite true it could turn out well if You marry the right person… The time should be considered but the person you are getting married to is a more important factor to be considered.
Wow ,its really undestandable. Thats what is going on these days. Marry whenever you found the right one. Opportunity come’s once. And everybody has different fate and destiny. Some might be early and some late. Don’t ever imitate one’s life style and standard. We all have different destiny…….muah
Great list. The benefits of being married in general are good. They are amplified when you do it at a younger age!
So True Emily
Great list, I am going to share this with my friend who is not sure if she is ready to be married at the age of 20.
Are these really benefits? I think they are more like an end result of getting married at a younger age and I do not look at that the same way.
Figuring out the tough stuff early is a great reason getting married young is a benefit. You might seem to be growing up faster than you want due to the experience, but it is for the better of both of you!
These are great reasons, but I still there is more to it. It is not just about being young, but it should be more about what you both want and if you are ready.
Getting married at a young age can go both ways. Of course, if you both truly love each other, it should be simple. If you are getting married because you are pregnant, that might not be the best scenario.
My husband and I got married very young and we thought we knew what we were doing, but we couldn’t be further from reality. After a couple rough patches that we recovered from, it was only a matter of time before we went our separate ways. The best thing is that we were able to chalk it up as a “mistake” and move on from there.
I like the fact that there is less baggage. Both of your have barely dated at this point and there is going to be less stress that usually comes with a combined family.
Young couples are getting a ton of benefits. This list is nice to read!
Yes it is. I agree. I would be a good one to share with young couples that are thinking about getting more serious.
Great list! I like the fact that we would truly grow old together for many, many years.
I am pretty young and it scares me to get married, but this list is so nice to read and really puts a dream like future in my mind. Is that even possible?
Well, yes it is possible. There is always a dream that every holds for their future. It just comes down to being able to stay on that same path. With so many variables, it is not that easy.
I was thinking about this the other day. I am quite young and was not sure if there was any real good reason to be married now. This is a good list and one that I will consider.
I wouldn’t say that the wedding would be cheaper when you are younger. Many times the first wedding is when the families go all out and that can cost a pretty penny.
I like the possibility that we could make it to our 50th year anniversary and things like that for sure. That is usually only possible if you marry at a young age.
I like hearing about older couples that have been together many years. It is certain they had to be married at a young age, which is what you are talking about here.
Most of the benefits are very good ones. There is also something to be said about waiting and learning. If you marry when you are 30, there is nothing wrong with that.
As many of the others have said here, this is a list of great benefits.
Yes it is, but I am not sure they are ALL benefits, are they?
I guess it depends on how you look at it. Each benefit listed here is going to be taken a different way by each couple. Still, it is a good list!
I always thought it was better to be married young as well. But then again, I made the mistake and as I look back, I wish I would have at least waited to make the call on my first marriage.
There are many benefits to getting married at a young age. The main thing is that you have talked about important things and agree on many of them. Today’s youth get married so quickly and never really benefit from being in a real relationship.
Having a cheap wedding is certainly a plus. Being married young allows you to look forward to anniversaries like 50, 60 and 70 years!
I always like hearing about the 70 year anniversary that some couples get to celebrate. It is a true testament of love!
I also hope that I can live to accomplish this some day!
Being able to figure out all of the tough things together instead of learning them the hard way through marriage and divorce is a much better path to go down.
These all make very good sense!