It’s unfortunate that lots of people treat the period right after a breakup as a kind of “get out of jail free” zone.
They’re allowed to say whatever they want, and do whatever they want – but only they get to decide what it really means – and you don’t get a say.
So he’ll pull crap like sending you drunk texts one night – but then ignoring your texts for the next week.
Or liking your photo on Facebook but then de-friending you the next day.
Or seeing you while out and about and straight up ignoring you.
Or worst – applying a nasty double standard: It’s okay if he starts seeing someone else – but if you want to then all of a sudden he gets mad.
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It can be hard to figure out if he still has feelings for you – or if he really doesn’t like you anymore.
Here’s the real story – breakups are messy. When two people break up, it’s almost a guarantee that they’ll both still have feelings for each other – they just don’t want to be in a relationship anymore.
If you’re wondering whether he has feelings for you, I’m going to give you the signs that he does.
However – don’t confuse him having feelings for you with him wanting to get back together with you. He might want to… he might not.
Even if he still has strong feelings for you, he still might not want to get back together with you. If you want him back, try some of the tips I’m about to show you.
1. He Calls Or Texts You When He’s Drunk
There’s an old roman saying: In Vino Veritas.
Basically, what it means is, ‘From Wine, Truth.’
Alcohol will lower his inhibitions – and lead him to say what’s really on his mind, and what he’s been hiding from you (1).
It will also overwhelm the rational part of his brain – turning, “I really shouldn’t call her, no good could come of it…” into, “I MISS HER I GOTTA CALL HER MAYBE WE CAN HOOK UP NOW HMM I’M ALSO HUNGRY FOR PIZZA OK I’LL CALL HER FIRST THEN PIZZA.”
Unfortunately – he could conveniently “forget” that he said anything to you at all the next day – so don’t say anything to him that you might regret. Treat it like being arrested – anything you say or do CAN be used against you at a later date… even though anything he said or did is OK because “he was drunk” and “it doesn’t count.”
Tip:
Be careful if he drunk dials you. Whatever you do – your feelings are off limits in the conversation. Just because he’s opening up (because he’s drunk) doesn’t mean that you should – and in fact you shouldn’t.
If he asks you how you feel about him, you can tell him that he’s drunk, and you don’t want to talk about it now. Let him realize the next day that he’s revealed he’s still into you – and he’s not sure whether you’re still into him.
2. He Goes Hot And Cold On You
Ever have an ex call or text you constantly for a week – and then freeze you out and ignore your texts while dodging your calls? Or push to spend time with you – before ignoring you for weeks?
This kind of behavior might seem confusing in the moment – which makes sense – because confusion is the exact emotion it’s growing out of. He’s confused about you – what he thinks, what he wants, and most importantly, what he feels about you (2).
His brain and his heart might be fighting a battle – where his heart wants you back and his brain tells him it’s a bad idea. You might be seeing the side effects of this battle – his confusing, back and forth behavior says it all.
And while that explains it – it doesn’t excuse it. If he’s really confused as to how to feel about you, he should have the respect to work it out himself (rather than subjecting you to hot-and-cold confusing behavior while he does).
Tip:
Don’t engage. If he makes plans with you, but then suddenly breaks them off, play it cool. If he ignores your texts – stop sending them. After a breakup, stay strong.
By engaging with him and calling him out for being confusing, you’re giving him the upper hand. You’re showing that he’s getting to you – and the only way he could get to you is if you still had feelings for him.
Just mirror what he does. If he’s ignoring you – ignore him.
3. He’s Trying To Make You Jealous
Is he rubbing his new date in your face? Is he posting stuff on Facebook because he knows it’ll touch a nerve? Is he out of control flirting – but only when you’re around?
He might think he’s making you jealous – but all he’s really doing is revealing that he still has feelings for you.
If he cares enough to try to make you jealous, then he still cares about what you think. He cares about whether you want him back or not. His behavior is trying to make you want him back (3).
And that means he still can’t stop thinking about you.
Remember – that’s weakness on his part, not strength. Take solace in the fact that if he’s really obnoxious about rubbing someone new in your face – it’s because he cares about what you think way more than he cares about the other person’s feelings.
Which is a pretty crappy, selfish, and immature way of saying, “I’m hurting from our breakup.”
Tip:
Once again – don’t play into his games.
If he’s rubbing his new life in your face, let him. Brush it off as a sign he’s still obsessed with you.
Meanwhile – get serious about improving your life. If he’s doing things to try to make you jealous, they’re probably not making him happy.
So one up him by doing the things you know will make you happy. Pick up hobbies you might have dropped off with. Go on dates with guys you’re interested in. Hit the gym and do some self improvement.
Whatever it is – work on making yourself happier – not to make him jealous – but to genuinely become happy. That’s the best way to respond – and the best way to get over a breakup.
If you come out of the breakup feeling healthier, happier, and more content with your life – it will drive him insane. Trying to rub someone new in his face (or having him rub someone new into yours) is a sure sign that they’re NOT over it – and they’re feeling totally immature about it.
4. He Reaches Out When You Said No Contact
One of the best possible things to do right after a breakup is to cut off contact with your ex.
That’s because in the period immediately following a breakup, confusion is at an all time high. You’re most liable to do and say things that you’re going to regret later – and any contact with your ex is only going to make the situation worse.
So the best thing to do is to tell him you don’t want to talk, text, or contact him after the breakup, and ask that he respects your wishes.
And if you tell him that, and he still contacts you? He’s still got feelings for you.
Tip:
Don’t engage. Don’t answer his calls. Don’t answer his texts. Don’t let him get inside your head.
For 4 solid weeks – don’t have any contact with him. Prove to yourself that you don’t need him to survive – that you’re perfectly fine on your own.
Not only does it give you desperately needed time to get over him… it also gives you a ton of perspective on the relationship, him, and why you guys broke up.
Perspective that you wouldn’t have gotten if you had been talking to him, and letting him send memories of the relationship running through your head again.
That’s actually one of the most powerful ways to get him wanting you back. If you prove to him that you don’t need him in your life – it makes you more attractive in his eyes.
5. He Displays Strong Emotions About You
You know what he’d be doing if he was truly over you?
Nothing. He’d feel indifferent towards you.
If he’s got strong emotions about you – well, those strong emotions don’t come from nowhere. They come from lingering feelings about you.
He’s hurting – because he’s messed up about the breakup. People who are hurting lash out in tons of different ways – but it all stems from the unresolved feelings they’ve got inside.
Tip:
If he’s lashing out – give him space. Nothing good can come from engaging with his negative emotions – and he’ll probably draw you into his negativity as well.
So if he’s raging, or bellowing, or expressing his anger – let him. Don’t engage. Don’t respond. Don’t try to turn his negativity into positivity.
The only way for him to get over his anger is if he does it himself – you can’t help him. So give him the space to get over his negativity, and eventually he’ll come around.
I hope this article helped you see the hidden signs that your ex is still in love with you. One thing to remember is that even if your ex still has feelings for you, he might not act on them, and the longer you stay apart the more likely it is that his feelings will fade forever. If you want him back you have to do something right now while you still have a chance, so read this to discover how to make him see you as “the one” and find the secret formula to get your ex back in your arms for good: Do You Want Your Ex Back? Use This To Get Them Back…
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In summary…
The Biggest Hidden Signs Your Ex Still Loves You
- He calls or texts you when he’s drunk
- He goes hot and cold on you
- He’s trying to make you jealous
- He reaches out when you said no contact
- He displays strong emotions about you
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This actually makes me really happy and gives me hope. When my boyfriend and I broke up, we still lived together and I had a week to compose myself and begin re-attracting him. I was aloof and sweet and acted like I wasn’t phased about the breakup- as though I accepted and respected his decision. The day I actually moved out, I did it all by myself. This made him want to help me.
As he was helping me, he started to become very emotional. They guy who hardly showed an emotion our entire relationship, who was cold and straight-faced as I essentially begged for him back after breaking up with me… now all of a sudden is crying to the point of hyperventilation. Everyone in the entire apartment complex heard it.
He strung out the process of loading the rest of the stuff for almost an hour. Finally he hugged me goodbye for about a minute before I drove off and he watched me as far as I could go.
A few weeks later, I came back to get my cat (I didn’t have a place for him right away). He wasn’t home when I got there. But by the time I had left and he got home, he called me crying (AGAIN!), claiming that he was very upset about the cat.
I did leave him a hidden letter when I got my cat (in one of his shoes) letting him know that I was sorry for inititating our breakup (even though he was the one who actually suggested it and followed through with it). And a week later I called him once but he didn’t answer.
It’s now been almost a month and I feel very good, although I wish I wouldn’t have left the letter or called him that one time. No contact (indefinitely) is the right answer, 100%. It is what’s best for you, and it is low-key the first step towards re-attraction (it displays strength and maintains your dignity).
I caught my husband with a young girl half of his age, I caught him kissing this girl, Little did I know that they have being dating for 3 months. I could not afford to lose my marriage all because of some little..
I am happy I could keep my marriage together no matter what means I use, I cannot let my home tear apart because of my husband’s indiscipline. I will do anything to keep my family together and happily in love forever.
I love my ex ❤️ still we were attached since our childhood I love him when I was in 5 standard and he was also. now he has completed his engineering and and I still love him ..he has a girlfriend she is his class mate she is very excited caring and loving ..but after our break up he is still strongly attach with me sexually he can’t ignore me and talk to me friendly he never talk about his girlfriend in front of me ..I m very confused he still loves me or not .he wants to get me back or not???
It awesome
my ex boyfriend broke up with me and I still love him and im really hurt I cry all the time because I miss him we were friends for 5 months before we started dating and we was best friends we know everything about each other so there was no secrets going into the relationship we dated for 7 months he says he don’t think he will really ever get over me but I don’t know if he’s just saying that or he means it because he always says that we might try again as well but we had some problems that needed to be worked out and fixed but not every relationship is perfect I just want some advice because I really want us to work things out he makes me really happy
We’ve broke up for 8 years but somehow we still manage to keep in touch time to time. So, we dated almost a year & broke up in 2011. In 2013, I went to college, we still keep in touch, somehow my ex fling wanted me to prank my ex girlfriend that we had kissed but we didn’t anyway my ex fling think that my ex girlfriend will get upset. Mind you , back in high school ,my ex fling & ex girlfriend hated each other because they were fighting over me. Back to the point, I told my ex girlfriend that I had kissed my ex fling & she got freaked out & never wanted to speak with me again. Like I said, somehow we still manage to keep in touch lol. Another, she is always the first person to watch my Snapchat story. Last year, I told her I was still in love with her & she said I need to move on. Everytime I post of guy or girls, she always asked am I dating one of them. Next, she always asked me am I bisexual, lesbian or straight… I asked her why she always asked me that & she claimed she forgot. She claimed she is happily straight & happy with her boyfriend. So, she attended my college last semester, I finally saw her in person on the first day of college last semester, she was in the office, I walked passed through her office, she came out of the office, I looked back, she quickly ran back to her office, I went back to her way, we saw each other, said nothing, & she rolled her eyes at me. Mind you , I haven’t seen her in person since we broke up but we talked in FaceTime sometimes. Second met, she asked me was I still interested in girls & who I rather to be with the most girl or guy. We were just started to flirted & jokes on each other. Second met, she was touchy-feely me, glare at me(or I’m just tripping) like there are still connections. We just clicked. So, I was helping her homework, a girl waved & smiled at me, of course my ex girlfriend saw her & gave me a weird, confusion, & maybe jealousy expression & asked me if that was my girlfriend.. Some staff said we must be really closed, we’re best friends, or we were the funniest people. I thought it was funny because they didn’t know that we used to go together… only if they knew & they probably would said we were flirting & stuff. we argued couple time about past… I posted a Snapchat game about first love & I wrote her initial name. She got so upset & told me that I need to move on…. & now I’m getting her space & just gon leave her alone for now on… What should I do? Or just move on my life???
I broke with my boyfriend before six months but we were friendship for five years during those years we had a great time together but we live in distance to job We meet only in holiday and break we didn’t sex for these years specially me I said sex after marriage he said okk no problem but we had high intimacy thrust each other last time I made a mistake that’s I said to him i donn need him anymore I always want him visit me because we distant not only that my working area not comfortable to me I always bother about this and i want my boyfriend closely in my side .my mind is not good at that time means stress about my work area I always bother I ignore my boyfriend, one day his friend calling me and why i do that I know I made a mistake and while back to family to break I was calling to him he was exited we plan to date and had beautiful time and plan next date and at this time I was late to date but am the way to meet him and when I was calling to him he said you are late so am not there am upset and back to my home he was calling me at noon he said sorry but am not polite at that moment next day when I was calling to him he ignore me for three months but I always msg to him no respond I back to working area and I was calling to him continously one day he pick and talk each other and regret each other and we start to calling each other and now come back to family to search job at this time I want boyfriend much because we were found at same town and within two months we meet three days at launch and his condition to me was good and i want to made a date with him more but he was busy at work only communicate with phone one day I said to him why he became like this he said he got stress and busy now also only communicate with phone mostly am was the only person to call to him one day I was msg to him like why he became like this and he was not the only man in the world he was very upset and he ignore me but I always msg to him about how much I missed him but no respond one day I was going to his work place and I asked to him why he was ignore me he said that he was not only ignore me he did not contact to other also but in addition he said to me about he need clear cut from me and i said why and we agree to plan a date another day to talk about it and I was always waiting his calls but he was not and then i messaged to him but no respond but am not stop in to sending a messages to him about how much I miss and love him but no respond and i was plan again to meet him at his work place and I did and I was bought a gift to him and i was going to his work place he was very surprised he said that thank and that day special day to him and we plan to meet next day at launch time we did on that day I was asking him about our break up and why he was ignoring me and he said he don’t need anymore from me and as he said after he said clear cut he was waiting my calls but now he move on and as he said he need freedom and expose him self new hobbies like smoking cigarette ,chewing stimulate plants. ,he drunk and he said he donn have a time to me anymore I was begging him but he was not respond but we plan to date another day and we start calling each other and he was talking politely about his day and he said sorry about the next date he crezfully busy to work and he don’t have time to me and suddenly he stop respond my calls as he said whole time spent at work after that engage him self to new hobbies and then i did no contact to 30 days during these time he didn’t contact me and at 31 day I messaged to him about remind moment but no respond I need your help what can I do next
Me and my ex broke up 5 months ago because I told him specifically not to do something and he didnt listen to me and I always had to do what he wanted me to do because he didnt like do anything that I like doing . Like for example I would like going out to nightclubs once in a while but he wouldnt take me to them but with hia friends he would go. Now that we are broke up he is going to nightclubs with his friends and admitting to me that he is going out alot . WE broke up three weeks after the break up I meet a guy and he invited me to go to the island to help him and his aunt decorate a event saloon for a wedding so I told the guy I would help him out he seemed like a nice guy to be honest I need to the distration because I was still head over heels for my ex . The guy decide to take a picture with me at the beach which I didnt think that it was wrong because I was broken up with my ex but my ex finds out about the pic and he starts adding him.on social media. I dont understand why my ex got so madd if we where broken up and he was the one who lied to me all the time and didnt make the effort in the relationship . If a guy really loves a girl he should try to get with her even if she hanging out with another guy which doesnt necessarily mean she is dating him. I wrote my ex boyfriend a letter sent to his workplace so that he could read so I give his boss the letter as I am leaving he comes tells me that he needs to talk to me and kisses and grabs my hand but then he says I am sorry I cant do this will be last hug ans kisses does that mean that he might still be in love with me because he admitted that he missed me and him.being together but that he couldnt be with me right after that eventhing . Is there still hope for.future for me and him.to.get back together. He told my best friend he is going to try and look for another girl . After that day He sent me a message because wherever i send him a mesaages he is like you destroyed that love i had for you but then he sends old pics of us when we together . I explained nothing happend between me and the other guy that I was hanging out with he was only a friend he doesnt understand me . My ex knows If i was interested in the other giy I would have uploaded pics with him because I put my relationships on social media . My friend is going to talk to today lets see how it goes .
Hi Chris, I broke up with my boyfriend a year and some months ago,around april and after d break up I did my NC exercise for a year, I didn’t call nor text him, whenever I see I dnt say hi to him but I do know deep down that I miss him and honestly want him back.
Fortunately for me after a year of my NC exercise, he textd me on whatapps to apologise and to mend stuff and I told him ok but let’s play it cool to knw if it gonna workout, so we started all over again bt we haven’t seen, so wen we did plan to meet he didn’t show up, dat discouraged me bcos dats how he does even when we were dating. All of a sudden we broke contact again, we stop calling and texting each other.
Now to d main issue, I called and text him of recent to please create time for us to see because I miss him and I want us to mend things, he didn’t reply my text but he called to talk angrily at me, he said on d first occasion that I am frustrating him that why do I want to see him? On d second occasion he called to apologise for shouting at me. Then, I met him at his sister’s when I went to visit her on the 8th of November 2017, I ceased the opportunity to talk to him at night cos we both slept over. At first he was pretending to have slept, so we couldn’t talk. I disturbed him till he started talking to me. Damn, I miss his smile and d sound of his voice. We talked and he said he has another girlfriend, I begged him to please allow us to try again but he complained about not having good intimacy when we were still dating, because I have never had Sex with him (I am a virgin). I promise we will try to do that aside from our usual making out.
In a nutshell, I made out with him and we eventually had Sex that night. (I lost my virginity that night) but I still have a feeling he does not care about me, that he only wanted the sex as much as I wanted it because he didn’t call me since then. So I decided to start my NC again. Please tell me what you feel about the whole issue and your advice for me.
NOTE: I have no regret that I got de-flowed by him, I have always wanted it because we dated for 3 years and we didn’t have sex.
Thanks, hope to hear from u soon
My boyfriend broke up with me to weeks ago cost I cheated on him, actually I didn’t mean to,I only did it cos of my ex so he saw some messages on my phone and since then,I have begged him but he kept on saying he can’t trust me I called him I week ago but he said he isn’t my boyfriend that i should go and Read for my exams, I still love him deeply and i want him back
Hi Haleema,
I am wondering if you really loved him because you did cheat on him. Why did you chat and why do you love him?
Broke up with my childhood friend who became my bf he broke up with me coz he was told that I am cheating on him its now 6months down the line but until now he is still uploading pics of him wearing something i gave him while we were still dating am confused what is he trying to pass through
I broke up with my childhood friend who became my bf he broke up with me coz he was told i was cheating on him its now 6months down the line but until now he still upload pics of him wearing something i gave him am confused what is he trying to pass through
I broke up with my boyfriend 4 yrs ago after being together for a year and a half. I always felt insecure as I am 6 years older thus the break up. I have tried to move on as best as I could but we always had a major connection especially in the bedroom. I feel I know him mentally and somewhat emotionally which is a lot to say as he is very difficult to talk to unless he is drinking then he opens up. However since the break up I am so confused, he is all over the map. He has not stopped messaging me whether it be when he is drunk or sober. There was a time when he had a girlfriend as well and he still wanted me to come over. If I don’t message back within a day or so he thinks I’m upset with him. However…. when I start to get to the point where I want to know what is going on between us or how he feels about me he won’t answer for awhile… I am so confused. I try to move on and do not message him or hear from him for weeks and I start to feel better and all of a sudden he’s back and I am back where I started. I have tried blocking him and everything but he somehow ends up in my life. One night I was out with a girlfriend and 2 male friends and he saw me. He really made it known that I saw him. Well I did get upset that him and a guy friend were taking this girl home. It broke my heart.
Hello. I completely understand where you are coming from. My ex left me with two sons after about a year he started to resurface saying he left because he thought it would make me miss him. I was angry and just continued to focus on the children. This went on for a while and finally I asked him to come after after all his coming over with pleas. He somehow never came back after years of toying with me making it look like he wanted to come back. But in reality he was just keeping me on hold. I let do men that wanted me but I foolishly held out for him. Please make no mistake. Men will string you along for as long as u let them. My ex 54 now has a 27 year old girlfriend and I am 51 single and wasted my best years raising his sons alone. I’m still alone. Do not please repeat my mistake. God bless.
my ex and i broke up a month back. we have had a rather cordial relation ever since the start of our friendship and i always wanted to maintain that however maybe that wasnt what he thought was possible. suddenly he began ignoring my messages and all, expecting i would be up his neck by bombarding messages. i did feel very broken because i really did love him unconditionally and wanted to have him by my side but maybe thats what he wanted i should feel but i realised that he is constantly been hurting me first as a gf and later on as a friend. he was a changed person not the one who loved and cared for me but rather someone else who since the start had the plans for cheating on me with someone else. i still didnt believe this coz i trusted him blindly and all he did was hid stuff from me along with a close friend whom he liked and never admitted to it. he thought of me as the wrong one just coz of that other person and thats what hurt me the most and him not trusting a friend who has always supported him all these while. all i expected out of the relation is honesty and he didnt give it to me at all while i was always real to him. he should have been honest with me even if he liked my friend i would selflessly move out of his way and he knew it clearly.
all i really want is him to realise that i was never ever fake to him and he should have been honest all these while maybe thats why he still cant face me and ignores my msgs coz he knows he wouldnt be able to justify himself as he knows hes been the wrong one. i still care for him but cant show it to him as he would take advantage of it. all i pray is that he stays blessed always!
My ex and I broke up for a few reasons even though our relation was good from the first minute till the last and even now we are good friends. The reasons ranged from the relationship changing into an LDR one when he had to move into another country as well as him saying he did not feel emotionally available even though he wants me in his future, probably because he had a lot of stress dealing with his life in a new foreign country with a lot to figure out. Our relation was 8 months long, part of it was LDR. Now it is two months we have broken up but we have almost daily communication by skype, sms, chat, commenting on facebook and instagram. sometimes he is flirtatious with me, always sweet, kind, caring as ever. We are still in different countries, but I really want me and him to have a future together, it just feels so damn right, perfect. even now with the break up there is zero tension, no negative feelings.
I want to wait for him, I have no desire for anyone else really, I am just not sure what to do, and if I should expect something in near future or not. I hope I won’t be disappointed really. I can list a million reasons why I want to be with him, and he was breaking up he said he hopes that one day we would get back and even be married to each other.
We never talked about the relation ever since then.
any comments, suggestion, advice?
He always looks at you where ever you go and you think you know then he likes you but he doesn’t tell you so you wait and then you will probley ask your friend to go ask him do like her and he will probley say yes if he does.
Okay…. he was and still :D my first love, first boyfriend…. simply!! First everything…
We dated for around one year and a half … we both were very serious about it..
Suddenly!! He wanted to breakup!! Why? Because he didn’t want to be in a serious relationship…
It’s been four months now .. and we talk every single day… and we see each othe almost everyday!! We still kiss sometimes.. We feel we are closer to each other than before, more open up… let’s say open relationship!! He doesn’t has a girlfriend but he go out with girls for fun… and for me I haven’t spoken to anyone but him!! I just can’t… all I see is him, I love very much and I feel he feels the same way….
Sometimes I text him, I say I can’t handle this anymore, I feel soooooo joules from every girl but I can’t do anything about it because we are friends!! And he just don’t say anything!!
Or I tell him I don’t want to talk to you or see you ever again!! He just reply with “Okay” or just open my massages and don’t reply!! And after couple of hours he calls me just like nothing happened!!!!
Simply!!!!
I’m still 100% loyal and in love
And for him, I just don’t know what to think!
Does he loves me ! Does he really want me but not now!! I just don’t know what to think!
He dosnt xare about you
I cheated on my boyfriend a year ago and a “” friend that I allowed to live in my garage that I had confided our issues to and confessed that I had made a mistake and cheated on him told him plus exaggerated the situation which really devesrated him we had been trying to work things out but behind my back this gal was telling him I was still seeing this other guy which was a lie and every time he spoke to her we would fight I was wondering why all the sudden he would be upset about it but didn’t know he was talking to her… well 3 months ago the guy I cheated on him with well his house burnt down and I happened to be curious and drove by noticed it was his house and saw him standing outside with the firefighters and he waved so I stopped come to find out his mom was in his car with no shoes no pants and 5 dogs it was 3 am and 17 degrees out and I opened my mouth and asked if she needed somewhere to stay that night long story short my boyfriend was very upset because he felt I was trying to maintain contact or secure a place in this guy’s life by inviting his mom to my house because hers was burning down so another gal used this opportunity to steal my man she had been staying at his house and try ed to break up another couple in his household that didn’t work so she was getting all friendly with the other roommate but when I would get to his house I had noticed she was leaving her cigarettes or her scarf or her gloves in his room well one night my car broke down at my parents house and he happened to go by my house to bring me phone time because min had expired and since iI wasn’t home he assumed I had goNE to the hotel where the guy I cheated on him with a year before was staying and this gal made her move and he cheated on Me with her when I got to his house his bedroom door was locked and he had to get dressed to come talk to me I was devestaTed and she moved into his room and has been there ever since I have been completely blocked out of his life he has come to my place several times he tells me he lives me and misses me and doesn’t know what to do because he’s afraid if he takes me back he will lose this other gal and me if I cheated on him again but he tells me she’s a psycho and he’s afraid of how she would react if he tried to end it with her so it’s been no contact from him for a week or two then outta by blue he shows up and he’ll sleep with me and confess his undying love then nothing for another week I miss him so much but am getting very sick of the yoyo what should I do to get him back?
I would say try to move on since what is broken cannot be fixed. sorry I know it is harsh.
He brokes with me because he loves someone else but when i don.’t response four weeks he sudden want to be with me also whether he is with her still i don.’t know how to react i still love him too but what can i do suggest me
even me my boyfriend break up with me… with no reason so guys what will i do?
He brokes with me because he loves someone else but when i don.’t response four weeks he sudden want to be with me also whether he is with her still
He started texting me again…few more days before Valentine’s day…but why? 3 years since we last spoke…
I keep telling my friends that #1 is a bad sign but a lot of women just don’t listen.
So I have an ex. I dated him last march. He tells me about his new bf. I catch him lying saying all of my friends say I look at his new bf. Well my friends say that he lied. Well he messaged me and I told him not to but he keeps messaging me and I message back. When we were done talking he messaged me when I said “bye” he saI’d “bye /;” what does this mean?
um in a long distance relationship so I dnt know if I can trust him or not because when I call him at night he seems not comfortable to talk wt me
I know a guy but at the same time I have a boyfriend. I was in love with the guy and leave my boyfriend. but he dare hurt my body, she did not respect me as his girlfriend. I intend to find my ex boyfriend and she gets to know. I do so because he doesn’t respect me, but I still love him when I saw him, my hands all cold and very nervous and angry feelings arise when saw him. but now I’m back with my ex boyfriend and I’m very happy he still loves me. He can accept my mistakes.
I know a guy but at the same time I have a boyfriend. I was in love with the guy and leave my boyfriend. but he dare hurt my body, he did not respect me as his girlfriend. I intend to find my ex boyfriend and he gets to know. I do so because he doesn’t respect me, but I still love him when I saw him, my hands all cold and very nervous and angry feelings arise when saw him. but now I’m back with my ex boyfriend and I’m very happy he still loves me. He can accept my mistakes.
I just want to know weather he loves me or what
I was with this guy.He had a really bad past.He broke up with me because he was afraid that I would get hurt.He admits that he has feelings for me and he knows I have feelings for him but he won’t talk to me because of his past.Idk what to do with him.He is a big part of my life and I honestly don’t know what to do without him.He has always been there for me and no without him it is a struggle to even get out of bed.He will see me and make up some excuse to not talk to me.Advice???
So I dated this guy three years ago… and we only went out for a few months and our relationship wasn’t that bad, but it did advance quickly and that’s one reason why HE broke up with me… after 3 months of not being together I moved to Chicago with my sister and was living a single life, meaning no dating, no meeting up with guys in a flirty way nor was I talking to any guys, and so my Ex just texted me out of nowhere saying that he moved on and that he had a new girlfriend.. (childish behavior) but I just ignored it and deleted his number, I was a bit upset.. but I wasn’t going to let that get to me. And so after a week of all of that, all he did was post thing on social media and obviously I would see them…. that relationship ended with in two months, and I started dating again, and when he found out I knew he got jealous because the hour I posted a picture of my boyfriend (my fiancé now) and I, he drunk texted me.. saying so many dumb things like “if only I was him you would be happy” or “he isn’t that good for you”.. it was so embarrassing and so annoying, that even my boyfriend sow t messages and was upset because of what this guy was saying to me, and this guy saved our messages that we would send each out her while we dated… which is weird… and he even has pictured of me, from facebook that I deleted a long time ago… long before we dated… and ever so often he textes me saying random things…
Is he crazy or am I?
My ex and I have been back and forth for a few months now, however in the midst of us breaking up and getting back together he met someone else who was more available to him. We have been dating long distance from the jump, and recently he had some health issues. I was unable to up and leave to help him out and she was there for him. I regret not being able to be more support for him, but I love him dearly. He saw this woman for about 3 months and proposed to her. They called off the engagement because he still had feelings for me. He came to see me and we talked about giving it another try because we couldnt seem to let each other go. Before leaving each other a week ago, he confessed he had trust issues with us. I had met someone while we were apart as well and ended up making a poor choice with this person. When he asked if I had slept with him I said no, as I hadnt slept with this other guy. In his mind he didnt know whether I was telling the truth or not and he said we needed to work on it. Less than a day later he called me and said that he couldnt give us another chance and that if I loved him as I said, I should let him be happy with this other woman. We have called things off a few times but always seem to come back to each other. I just dont know what to do at the moment. He also is older than I. He’s 38 and i’m 23. Please help me and my situation
ou ou ou i know i know……find someone whos NOT 15 years older than u
Dear, Alex
I agree with Nami. You still have a chance to change things around. All the sighs she’s gaven you. It’s obvious she still has feelings for you. In fact the way it sounds on how you told her, I think she’s always loved you. She’s just probably wry confused right now…. I really do hope you two get back together. You two would be a great wedded couple. Maybe if you were to meet her somewhere? Then tell er everything you’ve been wanting to tell her. Then if you love her that much…. Get on one knee, start breaking into tears and hope for the best, pull out a ring, and ask her to marry you. I don’t think any girl could resist that. I can tell she still has feelings for you. In fact she probably still loves you. So if you were to do what I said and ask to marry her then your chances are probably at least 80% yes 20% no. Or instead of the whole marrying thing u could come close to her and say softly will you please be my girlfriend again while looking into her eyes then kiss her gently on the lips it’s perfect. Lol I’m such a geek when it comes to romance. Good luck tho. I ship you guys soooo much! If she doesn’t answer your calls or texts. You should go to her house, ask for her. Tell her to meet you somewhere at a place at an exact time. And I repeat this once. Do. Not. Be. Late. Be there like 20-10 mins early so u can go over wht youwanna say to her. Then yah. Good luck Alex! I hope everything go’s well!!!! Tell me and Nami what happens when you do so!!!! Damn… I wish I knew u so I could actually tell you all this in person. But like no one I speak to online is from the ‘wheat’ province in Canada lol. Good bye!!!
I love the way you talk I wish I new you to trust me
Hey I was dating my first love for about 7 months and we did everything together we went to the lake I came over all the time I hung out with his family … he was never rude to me when we were dating just a couple times … I lost my virginity to him and he was my first kiss too and the first guy I cuddled with … we were going good Intell he went to his friends for a week and everything went bad we broke up and when he got back from his friends we got back together but then he broke up with me again but this time I was at his house and we were crying to eachother … we weren’t ok without each other but he thought it was time to move on … he has a new girlfriend now and I heard that he is just usin her to get sex and weed he goes over there every night to get high I see off his snap story but Idk like I miss him so much he doesn’t text me and when we do txt he always says I can’t txt because I have a girlfriend … does he still like me at all?
My ex and I were best friends for ages and we always fancied eachother we got together and we’re dating for 7 months. When he broke up with me he told me he still loved me but didn’t want to be with me. Since then we spoke on and off and then I was out with my friends and he was out with his and we ended up kissing and cuddling and he told me he loved but when he got home he said he didn’t want to be with me and just to see what happens. We don’t talk anymore really it’s been around 3 weeks and he told my bestest friend he is over me but him and his mates keep talking about me saying I’m trying to make him jealous and that I’m obsessed with him when I don’t even talk to any of his friends or mine about my ex unless it’s about him taking about me. I don’t know what to do can someone help?
Dear Alex,
OMW that is really sad i am really sorry , i wish i could help. But i think what you should do is to find out where she lives and go to her house and tell her about how you feel. I don’t know if it sounds to stalkish but if someone did that for me I would be really happy.
Hope to help.
-N
i broke up with my girlfriend two months ago because of another girl, but now i want her back, please how would i go about it.
My soap opera life, you can’t make this up: After living with someone for 6 years (we had an understanding although not formally married), we had some terrible fights, he cheated, he moved out, broke it off, then while we were supposedly working it out he married another woman out of spite within 4 months. It’s been a little over two years. He still texts or tries to see me, says he’s sad and unhappy, and that he still loves me. We’ve always stayed in contact for several reasons; we still have accounts that haven’t been cleared up and just because. His mother disowned him when got married like he did. He says he had a lot of hurt and anger to get past and has had a hard time letting it go. I’ve let the past hurt go and have forgiven him. He tells me all the time he wants me to be happy and wants the best for me. So much, that I’ve told him it wasn’t necessary to keep telling me. He tells me he’s just tired, and doesn’t want to fight. He flip flops on me all the time; one week he’s trying to figure out what to do and the next he’s tired and just going to ride it out. His crazy wife is a thorn in my side. I don’t like to belittle others but she is at a lower station in life than his family or myself. To put it lightly she’s trailer trash and has been married three times. I’m not sure she’s upset because she says she loves him or if she’s afraid of losing the potential for inheriting his mothers wealth. He has not introduced her to his mother or his family. He created a false FB profile to link to her using another name and does not allow her on his true profile with all his family on it. She managed to get in his phone and read his texts once. I know he locks the phone so she can’t. But the seeds of doubt are there for her. She continuously antagonizes me and has texted me. She made sure to let me know that she thinks I lie about everything and that no divorce is in the future. In our State it doesn’t matter if you contest it or not. It doesn’t matter what I say about her he will not cut off contact with me.
So, I’d like to hear your input on the situation.
I was with a guy for 6 to 7 months and it was great at first. But I started to realize we would fight over the most petty things. He would start am argument and I always end up apologizing so the argument would stop. A few months ago we were in my car and he was driving, we gotten into a car accident which resulted my car being totaled and I broke my finguer. Since I am a cocktail waitress, I couldn’t work for 3 1/2 months. A month later we were at a bar and some drunken idiot tried to talk to me, and of course my ex got upset and told the guy she was taken and blamed me and he said I made him look like an idiot. Which was not true, I wasn’t even talking to the guy he was talking to me. We had a nasty argument and he left me. 3onth later he went back with his ex and he seemed halpy. How did I found out? He requested me on instagram and his profile was public. And I knew who she was. It broke my heart…. up until now he tried to request on instagram twice. Why is he doing this? He is still with his lame ex and why try to follow me? Is he playing games? I’m confused and I’m too old for this
I quit with my guy last month and now I’m having feelings that I love him so I went back to him and he reject me pls advice me
I really love this girl but she knows my girlfriend.How can i approach her for us to build a relationship?
You need to breakup with your girlfriend first.
so can we say that according to the many dangers behind the blind dating we can say that it is a bad practice
we have been together more than 3 years. I am married but separated and I fell in love with him so I am about to have a divorce. he lately became very distant and whenever I asked him he gave me work related excuses. week ago I told him that maybe we were only good friends and I misjudged things. first he said he loves me then he said wants to remain as my friend. I am so confused now and hurt. I do love him very much and I only want to be him but I don’t want to be treated like this. not sure whether I made amid take or not.constantly checking my txts and trying not to txt him, missing him so much…
wow my friend does not know how to tell me he loves me but he tells his friends
He left 3 weeks ago found out I’m 2 months pregnant he not returning my calls or texts I just am floored. By his behavior.
He left me after a year due to our age… He wanted someone more his age.. there is only a 9 year age difference, he is older then me.. 48/39… sigh…
Lilly,
If his excuse was an age difference thing, be super greatful your the younger one in this situation. He’s almost 50 and he is running from commitment, that the truth.
Drop all forms of contact with him for no less than 30 days, I know, it’s really hard, but rip that bandaid off. Don’t reply to his texts, absolutely nothing. In the meantime, do things that truly make you happy and enjoy, work on your self. Ignore him Lilly for 30 days!!!!
You know what you are doing?
Showing him that you can still be happy in your life with or without him, he is not your happiness because you create your happiness. Let him experience life without Lilly in it now, if he truly loves you and wants to be with you, his actions will show you that he will do whatever it takes to have you in his life as his woman. He has to understand that your valuable and let him chase you. A man can’t chase if there is no space to do so. You have the power. Go be Lilly for a while. He’ll call you and text you after a bit. Be patient and make him work for you, ultimately, men are wired this way, they like to know that your a prize and that they are the ones who deserve the prize over anyone else, but you have to actually be the prize and be busy and have a life of your own.
You’ll empower yourself and you’ll make him a better man and partner for it. If it’s not him, then you’ll absolutely attract the energetic match to you. Listen to some Beyonce, specifically the song, “Sorry,” and be the goddess that your meant to be.
All the best!
I was dating my ex for 5 months…he has a twin..his bigger brother(not the twin) had a crush on me..so he sabotaged our relationship…my ex broke up with me…after a 2 months no contact period… He decided to text me..and he told that he loved me abd that he wanted me back…but the next day ..he said he was joking…he then texted me..and told me that I mist stop talking about him and I must stop telling my friends about him..last week he told his best friend that he loves me..but he can’t get back with me because of his situation.. ..I’m deeply hurt..I’ve never loved someone like I have loved him..I need him back..I tried getting over him…but I cant…it’s been 1 month and 2 weeks now that I’ve been single…but he just constantly comes into my heart…I even though of suicide..his Love is the only thing that can set me free from this dark and painful place…
:`{….Life is just hard..I feel like I have nl purpose in life…please Help
I was with my guy 3 years. We we’re very close. In last year he got into drugs heavily and we fought horribly. He left few months ago went live with his cousin. We started talking again and got along great but he moved back in about 3 weeks ago and all of sudden he starts fighting with me one night and leaves. Next day his friends came got all his stuff. He only talked to me a few times on phone, and responded a few on texting. Said he loves me always will but it is what it is. Now he been gone 4 days and he tells me he has lost everything. His car, tv, his homeless everything.. Not sure what he chose tell that but my heart is broken and I hope all works out somehow.. We agreed to stay in touch but all else remain unseen.. :(
Hey Shar,
I can relate to your story and I urge you to understand, it’s a blessing in disguise that you arn’t together (not sure if that is still the case currently, but I hope so). I’m going to give you a huge dose of reality, but I hope you understand, it’s from a loving compassionate place of my heart. He is a drug addict which means, he is a master manipulator and knows how to con the strings of your heart, so that your always in his back pocket to provide help for him. I am not saying he never had love for you or doesn’t have loving feelings for you, but he clearly doesn’t respect himself or love himself, therefore he sabotages his life, himself, and plays a victim.
I encourage you to join alanon meetings (this is for the people who are in relationships with addicts). I went one time, and it made me realize, I wasn’t alone in this situation, and that I did not want to live that life for years and years letting greatness pass by that I deserved. You will not fix him or change him no matter how much you try or think he has changed. His choices are leading him to his own hardships, that is not your responsibility to bail him out; again, his choices lead him to his consequences, he is the only one to take steps to change for the better. that goes for you as well! Do you enjoy feeling sad, anxiety, in limbo, unloved, wrapped in a vortex of being consumed by every thing he does? No, you don’t. Take responsibility for your own life and choose a healthy happy life, you can have it if you choose to, it’s not going to be with this dude. I’m not saying it’s easy to know somone you care about is suffering, but why wouldnt you take charge of your suffering first? I know this will seem totally backwards, but it’s 100% true. The only way an addict has any chance of getting better, one has to hit rock bottom and that means no helping in any way because if the addict knows there is a cushion, your actually enabling the addict to continue being an addict. The best way to love this person is cutting off completely. It’s difficult, I know this from personal experience, but, ask yourself this, do you really love this person wheather he is in your life or not as long as he is healthy or do you love him as long as he’s in your life the way you want? Your heart will heal faster when you step into your own power to respect yourself and that means being aware that you have the choice to make your life happy or crappy. The best steps to immediately take is to cut off, erase all his contact info, cut out ties to him, and then do things in your day that you enjoy regardless what other person is in your life. This is really the remedy for a broken heart. Always pay attention to people’s actions, not their words, that will be your answer and truth. A guy can talk some really good talk and tell you things you want to hear, but if their actions contradict their words, run as far as you can in the opposite direction. Let go with love and compassion in your heart, know that it has nothing to do with you, so don’t take anything this person says or does that is negative personally, commit yourself to focusing on your life being amazing because nobody can do that for you, but you, take resposibility for your choices, and be greatful for the lessons you learn in your relationships. Remember this above all Shar, “We all experience pain, but we choose to suffer.” -Buddah (I think it’s Buddha and I might have the quote a little off, but it’s definitely 99% correct). A strong women isn’t cut off from her emotions, she’s somone who has charged through pain and heartache, but still stands tall and graceful, keep your head up, otherwise the crown falls. I wish you miraculous rapid healing stay positive, life is full of bumps, and you have absolutely no clue what amazing things can happen in just 15 seconds from now. All the best to you!
Been texting him for 8weeks on and off, I can feel the way he has very strong feelings, always tells me too send him photos. Said his been divorced twice because it was an arrangement marriage. He also told me that he was inlove once and got hurt. Sometimes he cuts of because he doesn’t want me to get hurt, I get really upest when he doesn’t get back to my text almost in tears. He always asks about my feelings and ive told him by taking it very slowly because I’m a shy person.I’ve stopped going on line and I’ve realized that his always checking up on me because I was doing the same and it was making me crazy only because I was waiting for him to text me back.He always says nice things to me that make me feel special.
Me & a coworker been flirting heavily. I really fell for him. He would get so close to my face but wouldn’t kiss me. I would feel on him, he would feel on me. It got to a point we talked about having sex. I was ready but he was so indecisive. He went from making up excuses to having broke out in hives then gave me a flat no he changed his mind. I was disappointed but not broken so now I give him a casual hi and bye if that but I don’t go in his office & chat like we used to. I saw him moping around the other day, & another Co worker told me he chewed him out but later apologized. Later on that nite, he began joking & trying to flirt, i just slightly entertained him but went back to working. I’m wondering with me not texting and flirting is it getting the best of him? Is he thinking about me still? I do still have feelings for him, I’m just letting it be.
i decided to end our relationship of 4 months two days ago because i was angry and suspicious of my boyfriend being in contact with my former ex.I later told him that i didnt mean what i told him and told him the reason why,he said i made him believe i would never leave him and i did so he said he will not accept me again and told me not to call him o text him.i really need to know if there are any chances he will accept me usig the ex boyfriend text?
After dating a guy for 2 years, he broke up with me. We maintained no contact for about a week and then he came by the house two days in a row and stayed one night-even though he slept on the couch. I don’t know we had been through a lot in two years, and even though I don’t think either of us wanted the relationship to be over we are both stubborn. I am hoping that maybe this will lead to a relationship recovery but am not sure.
The results made me realize that it was so accurate if y we broke up its crazy like I hope the steps I take to getting the loml back will actually work *thank you* ❤
I broked up with my 3mnths baby daddy, because I suspected that he was cheating only to found out that yes it was the truth…. it’s 4mnths now we broked up but he does Come to visit his little prince’s, the confusing part is when his around his playing a happily fmly act if nothing happened, than after he will ignore me n never chart I also doing the same but I still love him n want him bck…. I once told him that and he said to me he does love me alot but he want to be single because I’m the one who brokered up with him so he choose to be single, but to me he doesn’t act as a single man. please I need an advice what must I do to win him back?
I had date my boyfriend for 2 months then he broke up with me . But we’re still seeing each another Intil A month ago but we still text each another . The last time we met he ask me if I miss him
please advise, My Girlfriend broke up with me over some stupid message that she misunderstood, I apologized and she understood, but she was broken and mentally drained and was so upset, she did totally ignored me for 4 days, and I finally gave her space I didn’t message and hustle her then after 2 days she send me an email saying it’s over, she can’t do it anymore and she can’t do us anymore, because she was crying for week even at work, of course I beg and plead and want her to take me back but it didn’t work, our emotions are all over the place, she said we both need time to heal and be okay, so now it’s my 1st week of no contact even if it’s so hard and part of me want to message her but I didn’t, she was the love of my life and she loves me, she still loves me, I just hurt her so much so she have to let go, what should I do to get her back??
Hi….seriously looking out for advice..my bf n I got separated and ever since 4 yrs, he did not contact me at all.but I have alwaz yearned n cried for him, each day , every single minute.he even got married. But now he did contact me and like a easy prey , again I fell for him.coz I cannot live without him.he asks me to mast..bate…and he does rem every single trait of me…but I feel like. Being used for his physical need.however, my heart wants to be with him still n thinks that may b he truly loves me, still….wat to do
So right now I have a boyfriend. So far our relationship has been great. This time I’m confused and wondering. My ex boyfriend that I used to date and thought his the one broke my heart 7 years ago. After we broke up, I moved and deleted him on social media, but he kept adding me. So I decide oh well, I’m over him why not. Last year we talked on and off, this time we talked, he calls, he invites me to visit him in Australia saying how cheap the fare. Also, he gives me hint like, oh I’m getting married next year, or invites me to his wedding in the future and that he doesn’t have any girlfriend. What is he trying to do? Confuse me because when he calls my feelings from the past comes back please help advice.
I dated him last summer then broke up with him because I didn’t think it would work out, even though I still had feelings for him, and through out the whole year he would stop by my house and talk about his new girl friend. In the summer we hang out allot because we go to the same places and my bff is dateing his friend so we end up together allot. The thing is though he always follows me around but then acts like he hates me but goes off and talks with his friends about me. I don’t know if he’s trying to pull game or still likes me because he keeps saying that we dated for 2sunmers when we odviously didn’t and he keeps dropping all these hints that he wants to get back together. But he talks to allot of girls but tells me that when me and him date he is gonna stop…. Idk what to do because he treated me like crap during the year and broke my heart during the summer now he keeps trying to get back with me and I don’t know what to do….
I really miss my ex and i notice he misses me too
Here it’s written how to get your ex boyfriend back. It is told for guys who are hot and cold.
I still have feelings to my ex girlfriend and it’s she playing hot and cold to me, so it’s YOU girls who really like to play those kind of mind games, but that isn’t cool.
It’s just soo difficult to get over a breakup at times… It would be much better if we could master how to become emotionless…
I get drunk texted all the time by my friends. I am not going to assume they are into me. I am going to assume they are not going to remember doing it.
I dealt with a guy like this in college. After we broke up, I should have deleted all contact from my phone and blocked his number, because a conversation in the middle of the night was the only thing that he wanted to do.
LOL, these are awesome and a dead giveaway that something is still burning inside of him.
I have been with a guy that was “hot” and “cold” on me. That was one of the most confusing relationships I ever had!
I am dealing with a situation like this right now. The guy will not give me the time of day unless he has a couple of drinks down at a club first. What a jerk!
If I was doing any of these to an ex, I would hope that she sees them as a sign that I really miss her and would like to patch things up if possible.
I just broke up with a guy and I hope that he does some of these things so that I can rub in his face the fact that HE messed things up by cheating on me.
Good luck with that. There is always a chance early on that the drunk texts will be coming through.
These are hidden signs. Or, the guy might think that he is being subtle, but I feel that he is just realizing what he used to have and is grabbing at straws to get it back.
Social media can make things like this so weird. Back in the day, it was easy to avoid a person you did NOT want to see. Now, they can stalk you every step of the way and that makes for some weird situations.
Yeh, you are right about that social media thing. Once you have disconnected face to face, you NEED to disconnect online as well or things are just going to be worse.
Maybe in the first few weeks after a break up, but I would not be impressed if I was getting things like this months after we are done.
That would be getting into the creepy part of things if that happened.
I have been in the situation where he is trying to make me jealous. That is so juvenile and so high school. It is a turn off right away.
Do you think so? I think there is a sense of immaturity to it, but I am not sure that I would be turned off right away by it.
Well, I have been on the end of a drunk call/text conversation that seemed like it was going well. The bad thing is that he did not remember it and when I brought it up, I felt like an idiot because of that reason.
Ohh yeah, I have been here as well. That is the worst feeling ever when you go into a conversation thinking that BOTH of you are aware of what has already happened.
These are obvious to me. They are also signs that you will see right AFTER a break up. If you are broken up for a longer period of time and start to see signs like this, it would make me wonder what is up.
There is nothing really “hidden” about the signs. Basically, he is doing all of the work and if you cannot figure out that he is still into you, then you are an idiot.
That is what I thought, LOL. These signs are like a punch in the face and if you do not really want him back, send him packing again!
I guess if you are still close enough to be getting contacted by him, that might mean something, but he shouldn’t be anywhere near you.
Exactly what I thought. If he is your ex, that is for a reason. He should not be able to contact you out of the blue after a night at the bar or whatever.
LOL, he calls or texts when he is drunk. That is almost the #1 reason that I would ignore you.
No sneaking around here. It looks like these are the types of things that are right in your face.