So you want to turn him on… but you’re not sure where to start or you feel awkward, uncomfortable and nervous. I’ve got good news for you – you’re in luck.
I’ve got a huge amount of sexy tips and tricks to get him going wild and crazy for you (1). Here’s exactly what to do to turn him on…
1. Side By Side Sex Session
Try this sexy move to really turn up the heat in the bedroom. Lay in front of him and have him enter you from behind while lying behind you, like you’re spooning but, uh, a little dirtier. This position is pretty much designed for him to hit your g-spot over and over.
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2. Kiss Him Deep
Lots of people think kissing during sex is just for foreplay, but it can be a pleasure boosting powerhouse. Try kissing him deeply during intercourse to hugely up the intimacy and pleasure.
3. Pick A New Spot
Is the bedroom routine getting old (2)? Try spicing things up by getting spicy with him outside the bedroom, like in the kitchen, bathroom, or on the sofa.
4. Give Him A Backside Massage
Next time you’re giving him some oral attention, double up the intensity of his sensations by kneading and massaging his butt cheeks at the same time. You’ll control the pace, and intensity of this super-orgasmic move.
5. Get Sweet And Spicy With Him
Try adding food into your sex play to really turn up the heat and add some new sensations to the bedroom.
Combine some of your favorite flavors – like peanut butter and chocolate, and whipped cream, and add them to some strategic spots on his body to lick off later…
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6. Dirty Talk Into His Ear
Guys love it when a girl dirty talks in the bedroom, and your guy is no exception. Don’t worry about anything complicated, simply moaning or breathing heavily into his ear will do the trick.
7. Knock Out His Sight
By breaking out the blindfold, you’re ratcheting up his anticipation a thousand times more intense. He’ll have no idea where the next kiss, stroke, or lick will land, and you’ll be in the driver’s seat (3).
Try giving him some new intense sensations he’s never felt before, like letting your hair trail across his body or using your silkiest pair of panties to massage his member.
8. Ride Him Like A Cowgirl
Did you know that in recent surveys – guys vote girl on top as their #1 favorite position? It’s true!
Lazy jerks.
Anyway, the intimacy of this position can’t be topped – plus you can control the pace to keep his climax at bay so you can go for longer.
9. Get Dirty While You’re Getting Clean
Jumping in the shower with him is a great way to have some slippery, soapy, dirty fun. Try passionately kissing each other while the water runs over you and the bathroom mirror fogs up.
10. Give Him A “Reach Around”
Here’s how to give him a really sneaky surprise – stand close behind him and stroke his member from behind. You’ll be gripping it from the underside – which is the most sensitive – and it’s also how he holds it when he touches himself.
However, you can do a few things for him that he can’t do for himself – like whisper sexy words in his ear or kiss him on the neck and shoulders.
11. Perineum Pleasure
Did you know that guys have a g-spot too? It’s his prostate – and stimulating it is super pleasurable for him. Try finding this spot on his body by pushing on his perineum – the skin between his scrotum and backside.
12. Take Charge
Many guys report in surveys that they want a woman to take charge in the bedroom sometimes. Try getting the upper hand in the bedroom without saying a word by giving his member a little squeeze every time he does something you like.
13. Let Him Watch
Guys love to watch (we all know they watch porn), and it gets them super stimulated to just watch for a bit without touching.
So with that in mind, try giving him a show – where you touch yourself but don’t let him join in the fun quite yet – to really get his water boiling and get him aching to join the fun.
14. Tease Til He Begs For Mercy
Try kissing your way down his chest towards his member like you’re about to give him oral, then smiling and kissing your way right back up. Rinse and repeat until he can’t take it anymore.
15. Make Him Do Everything Without His Hands
This is a fun game – try having sex with him but don’t let him use his hands, and don’t use yours. Instead, use your tongue, breath, and lips to excite, tease, and please each other.
16. Give Him Some Sexy Torture
Try getting him riled up with all your clothes on, but making him wait an extra minute for you to take off each article of clothing. His frustration will combine with anticipation to leave him breathing hot, heavy, and ready for passion.
17. Give His Ears Erotic Attention
If you want your man to last longer in bed, try this tantric trick – massage his upper ear with your fingertips, working your way from the top to his earlobe. Then, use your pinky to massage where his ear meets his head and use the tip of your tongue to delight the inside of his ear.
18. Turn Bath time Into Pleasure Time
And you thought shower sex was good – try sex in the bath tub! Pamper each other with long soapy massages before getting down to business and getting each other off.
19. Tie Him In Knots
You don’t have to use rope or handcuffs – even a scarf or a necktie will work. Keep his hands up above his head – where he can’t use them – and ride him until you both go crazy.
20. Give His Ego A Boost
Guys’ egos are more fragile than most – but the right word at the right time will have him feeling like a million bucks, and performing like a stud in the bedroom too. Give him a sexy compliment and watch him work to prove you right.
21. Give Him A Treat And Do All The Work
Sometimes, guys just don’t feel that encouraged to have sex. That’s why sometimes, it’s amazing to treat your guy to sex that doesn’t require him to lift a finger.
Take control and do everything for him, including taking his pants off. When he realizes he’s getting pampered, he’ll be especially excited to return the favor later.
22. Let Him Feast His Eyes
For a lot of women, letting a guy see them completely naked is nerve wracking. But that’s what adds to the fun of this super sexy move!
Let him see you in all your glory by undressing in front of him and allowing him to stare at you… then watch how fast the sexual tension grows (and how quickly he loses control!)
23. Unleash His Wild Side
If you want to unleash his inner animal and unlock the passion within, try this sexy move – have sex with him while you’re both standing up.
For extra style points, have him hold you up against the wall while you wrap your legs around his lower back. He gets to be the conquering caveman taking his plunder – and you get to be taken for a wild ride.
24. Let Him Be The Man In Charge
Sometimes, guys want the woman to be on top, but a lot of the time, he wants to get on top and assert his dominance. Have sex with him missionary style – but keep your knees up towards your chest with your hands holding your thighs. He’ll get super deep inside you – and it will feel amazing .
25. Manhandle Him
Sometimes, playing rough is the best way to really stoke the fire in the bedroom. Try pinching his nipples or using your nails to scratch his back. Don’t worry about going hard – he can take it!
26. Have A Quick One
A lot of the time, neither of you has time for a long, drawn out session. That’s why a super fast and dirty quickie is an amazing way to keep the intimacy and passion strong between you – even before you have to go to work.
27. Change Up The Temperature
When you play games with the temperature of his skin, you massively increase his anticipation – because he won’t know what sensation to expect next.
Try having him lie on his stomach and drawing naughty designs all over his back with an ice cube to send shivers up and down his spine.
28. Give Him Some Direct Instruction
Sometimes, the direct way is the best way. Catch him off guard one night by flat out telling him, “I want to have sex with you, right now.” Bonus points if you do it out in public, where he has to wait and let his anticipation grow and grow until he can get you alone.
29. Try Out Some Toys
Sex toys are a great way to really heat things up in the bedroom and get both of you off. Try some soft fuzzy handcuffs to add some kink, or add a vibrator to your intercourse to make it much more likely that you climax.
30. Get Him Ready To Go Again
Is he spent? Try giving him some compliments – and telling him how hot he makes you – in order to warm his engine back up and get him ready to go again.
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In summary…
Exactly How To Turn Him On
- Have a side by side sex session
- Try kissing him deeply
- Pick a new spot to get intimate
- Try massaging his backside
- Get sweet and spicy with some food in the bedroom
- Whisper some dirty talk into his ear
- Knock out his sight with a blindfold and have fun while he’s in the dark
- Ride him like a cowgirl
- Get dirty while you’re getting clean
- Stroke him from behind with a “reach around”
- Put some pressure on his perineum to send him through the roof
- Take charge in the bedroom and drive him wild
- Put on a little show for him and let him watch
- Tease him til he begs for mercy
- Make him do everything he wants to do to you without his hands
- Give him some sexy torture
- Give his ears erotic attention
- Turn bath time into pleasure time
- Tie him in knots
- Give his ego a boost
- Give him a treat and do all the work
- Let him feast his eyes
- Unleash his wild side
- Let him be the man in charge
- Manhandle him
- Have a quick one
- Change up the temperature
- Give him some direct instruction
- Try out some toys
- Get him ready to go again
I want to try new things in the bedroom but I am scared
This does help most and is great info.
Any ideas on Tieing him up after hes tied then what ? Keep in mind hes been tied up and enjoyed it very much .I have never tied anyone up..
Hello i love trying new things but mine problem is I am ashamed of my body I have small breasts and I also have a big belly my partner never judge me but I feel insecure I am down for everything it’s just a shame to show my body what advice can I get
I know this is late, probably not many reads this. But for those who may have this same issue: I’m a male and just want to say, yes there’s a physical attraction, however, something that really helps and makes a difference if you feel insecure and think that that psychical attraction may lack is………….. CONFIDENCE. Confidence is so sexy. If you’re willing to put your insecurities aside and just absolutely become that beast (obviously within you’re fun range) that WILL help. So many points within this article; forcing us to watch you masturbate (many different proactive positions, the striptease, exploring new things with us, tie us up, crazy hands jobs, oral, whatever). Point is, many times lack of confidence rolls over into the sexual moments. SLAM that lack of confidence barrier and become this unbelievable, awesome confidence powerhouse!
i tried it all. it didn’t work he still is not into it. at least not with me anyway. i couldn’t turn him on at all. so i guess i know now that he never really wanted to be with me in the first place. so i guess i’ll have to let him go.
I have always been some kind of submissive in the bedroom, but I like the way these would make me feel like I have a little bit of power.
Turning on a man is easy, just like everyone has been saying here.
Since we have been married, my husband and I have always made bath time pleasure time!
I like to be on top as well, however, I do not make that move first. I make him do some of the work before I move to another position :)
I didn’t think that blindfolding my man would work, since he can still feel, but it was pretty intense and he said the same thing!
I am in the same boat. Worked like a charm and now he basically comes to be with the blindfold on :)
Get out the oil and its message time! That is one of my favorite things to do with my man when he is naked :)
I like to pick a new spot once in a while. Last time I went into his office with a nice little outfit on and surprised him with a little fun. That was a good time simply because it was not in the bed.
For me, this is a default. Once things seem to be getting “old”, it is time to walk to a new area of the house and see what that is like :)
Wow. All of these are quite sexy and ones that I would have no problem doing should the situation present itself. Getting that situation to present itself has been sort of hard for me lately :(
When I take a shower with my b/f, he loves the reach around. It is usually very hot and steamy to begin with, but that move keeps things going in the right direction!
Naked is the best part about being naked :) These ideas are great for when you want to turn up the heat for sure!
This page is giving me some great ideas :) All I have to do is remember them now…
I never realized there were so many things that I could do with him while not having any clothes on :) I am usually just focused on one or two things…
The first time my g/f ever gave me a “reach around” was the most exciting thing I did sexually without have any sex.
My b/f felt the same way. There is something different about someone else doing it :)
I usually prefer to see him take charge, however, I can see how if I was to reverse that role, it might be a hot night in the sack.
I am the same way. Let him take charge and everything will be perfect in the end!
Thank you for posting this. I am always looking for ways to get things to be a little more exciting and i think this list is a great place to start!
When my man is naked, there are a TON of things that I would like to do with him and SEXY describes just about every single one of them!
LOL, that is a good point. I am reading through these and thinking of reasons why I never do them and really, it is because I am just pumped to be naked with a guy :)
I love to take control at this time and just tease him to pieces. I prefer that my clothes are off and his are on for this, but it works the other way around as well :)
Wow, that would do some serious damage to my b/f, LOL.
Being naked with a man is just enough for me, I am not sure I can concentrate on anything else.
I am thinking the same thing. The way he touches me can be so much more exciting than if I were to plan something like what you have here. I just love to feel his soft hands on my body.
LOL. My g/f is the same way. She just wants to see my clothes off and that is enough to get things going quickly!
Blind folds! Me likey very much. I hope he likes it as much cause I am going to try that on him soon!
I would have a hard time thinking about any of these if my guy is standing naked in front of me. Only one thing goes through my mind and it is usually “DAMN!”
I wish I could stand in front of you……..naked. Just hearing “damn” would be enough for me :)
Now, THIS is one awesome post! Thank you for all of the good ideas!
I even shared it online with my friends. That is how good I thought it was :)