Want to blow his mind with some lip locking moves that will leave him breathless? Or thinking about having your first kiss and feeling like you need some help – fast? Think you’re a bad kisser, but feel extremely insecure about it and really don’t know what to do?
Here’s everything you need to know about kissing, from every angle. Trust me, you will want to read this.
1. Making The Move
If you want to kiss the guy of your dreams , you’re going to have to drop some hints that you’re interested. There are some great ways to subtly tell him you want him to kiss you – without having to actually say it.
One great subtle signal is to let him catch you sneaking quick looks at his lips. When you’re trying to make yourself as inviting as possible, don’t have your lips pursed. Instead, keep them soft, and slightly parted. Try lip gloss to smooth over chapped lips and make sure your breath is fresh with a mint.
If you want to get the kissing started without making the whole move, a great way to do it is to give him a kiss on the cheek. Remember to keep your lips soft, don’t purse them on this one. Be extra “cheeky” and kiss him near the corner of his mouth to make sure he gets the hint!
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Want to get him thinking about you romantically? Give him a real, sincere compliment – one that you really believe about him. When you give it to him, make eye contact and softly tell him – not so soft that he can’t hear, but soft enough that he’ll lean in to listen.
When you’re thinking about a compliment to give him, don’t tell him something that has no romantic content, like, “You’re really great at baseball.” Instead, draw your compliment from something romantic about him – like “You’ve got such beautiful eyes,” or “Your smile drives me crazy…”
Is he still not getting the hint? It might be time to flat out tell him what you want. This doesn’t have to be awkward – in fact, there are a few ways to ask in a sultry, sexy way.
You can tell him, “I want to kiss you so bad it’s driving me crazy …” or, “I just can’t stop thinking about kissing you right now…”
After that – if he doesn’t want to kiss , it was never meant to be. However, if he’s into it, you’re ready for some…
How To Kiss The Guy You Want
When you’re kissing him, you want to keep your lips soft. After all, you’re not kissing grandma here, you’re kissing the man you’re interested in! At the beginning, try kissing him softly a few times. You want to start slow here – too much right out the gate is going to turn him off. Don’t worry about tongue yet. This is all about light, gentle kisses to each other’s lips. Move slow, and build anticipation.
Make sure you’re not building up too much saliva (1). Drool is unattractive! If you’ve got too much saliva in your mouth, swallow it down occasionally to avoid a messy mistake.
If you’re ready – and you’re both turned on, you can move to the lip lock. This is where you position your lips so that they “lock” together, his top lip on top of yours, then his bottom lip, then yours (2). Try gently kissing and sucking on his lower lip while you’re in this position.
Don’t forget to breathe! When you’re kissing him, breathing through your nose is your first and best option, but if your nose is stuffed up for some reason, take a quick break from the kissing every so often to be able to breathe. If you do, it’s nothing to be embarrassed about! If you’re breathing hard, your partner will probably take it as a sign you’re really turned on and feel pretty good about himself.
While you’re kissing him, don’t let your hands just droop at your sides! Try putting your hands on his shoulders, and turn up the heat a little bit by pulling him closer. You can use your hands to stroke his face, or if you really want to get his motor running, put your hand around the back of his neck and bury it in his hair.
When things are getting hot and heavy, try slipping in some tongue (3). When you have his lower lip between yours, use your tongue and run it lightly over his lip. Don’t go too fast, slower is better, but not too slow! Then, watch for his response.
If that makes him press closer in with you and start using his tongue, it’s clear to say that he liked it and is looking to ramp up the intensity of the kiss. If he pulls away, try keeping things lighter and less heavy for now.
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Remember to mix things up! If you’ve started using your tongue, you don’t have to use it the same way the whole time. You can build up to using a lot of tongue, then scale things back, or even go back to just kissing each other’s lips if you feel like it. When he can’t predict what’s going to happen next, his anticipation is going to go through the roof.
If you want to, and you feel in the mood, try ( lightly ) nibbling his lips when they’re between yours. Graze your teeth gently over his lower lip, using as light pressure as possible. You want to move slowly, and lightly, just for a bit before you go back to regular kissing. You’ll know if he’s into it or not by whether he reciprocates, or keeps looking for you to nibble on his lip.
Remember to take breaks! Don’t try kissing him nonstop for hours (even if you might want to!) You can keep the intensity high by taking short breaks to whisper in his ear, look him in the eyes, or run your hands over his cheeks and neck.
3. What About The First Kiss?
If you’re getting ready to have your first kiss, congratulations! Here are some things you should know and keep in mind:
First off, pick someone you trust. If you’re having your first kiss, chances are you’re feeling pretty nervous anyway, and being with someone who you don’t trust will make you feel even more uneasy.
If the first kiss turns out to be awkward, don’t worry! Kissing will always get better as you do more of it. If you have an awkward experience with him, no need to panic – you might actually wind up closer together from your shared experience.
Remember the advice from the first section and make sure your mouth looks and smells its best. A small amount of lip gloss and mint will help keep your mouth fresh! This really isn’t something to worry about – as long as you weren’t shoving whole garlic cloves in your mouth like 5 minutes before kissing him, your mouth isn’t going to taste bad.
Remember to slow down and enjoy it – you don’t have to rush! After all, you’re only going to have a first kiss once in your life, so there’s no need to rush through it. Take it slow, at your own pace.
If you’re nervous about not knowing what you’re doing (which you shouldn’t be – you can just do what’s natural), you can let him take the lead. Let him show you how to get going before you get confident enough to try out your own stuff. Then, once you’re off and running, the sky’s the limit!
4. After-Date Kissing Etiquette
So you’ve just had a date with this guy you really like, and you’re looking for a little post date smoochin afterwards. What to do?
First of all, you gotta get close to him. Since both of you have probably been thinking about this kiss since the moment the date started (or maybe before), don’t be afraid to start closing the physical gap between you early. During the date, look for excuses to get close to him and give him excuses to get close to you, if you want some post date fireworks.
Try making a lot of eye contact when you’re standing close to him. That’s pretty much the biggest green light that he’s going to get that you want a smooch (or maybe more) from him. If the eye contact stretches so long that it feels a little awkward, feel free to break it and then make eye contact again. A great way to do that? Steal a glance at his lips.
One thing that might happen is that you might start talking a little too much to each other – instead of kissing. Sometimes people who are nervous talk a lot to get their nervousness out – which makes it harder to kiss each other. Don’t end your conversation in an abrupt or awkward way… instead, stay friendly but give him minimal answers to signal that it’s not talking time, it’s kissing time.
One important thing to remember is this: especially if it’s your first date, or your first kiss with him, simpler is better. Don’t try to pull out all the stops with an over the top crazy kiss. Instead, just stick with the basics we talked about in section 2.
That’s it! If you can do that, and follow your date’s lead for what he wants to do and how he’s responding to the kiss, you’re golden! Get out there and happy smooching!
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Hi if fallen in love with someone and she’s fallen in love with me and we have kissed until after a couple weeks of connecting and out first kiss wasent that great but i know it can be better what do i do help me I’m going mad!! Just try again right and work at its got to be that simple if you fail try again untill you do succeed right!
Help, please, my boyfriend just tried to kiss me utility I didn’t know what was going on so I pulled a face said ‘bleh’ and backed up, I really wanted to kiss him but I’ve never kissed someone before and I didn’t want to mess it up but now Ivery only made things worse!!! Please help!?!?!?!?!
A good way to get a first kiss is to have a romantic conversation. I’ll give an example. If you took your date for a nighttime walk under visible stars, stop suddenly and say you just saw a shooting star. Then turn to your date and step close. Say “I didn’t need to see that” and when your date asks why, you say, “Because you are my shooting star.” That’ll definitely get you somewhere!
I agree that the first kiss should be kept short and simple. Good tips!
I would agree that kissing is quite basic, however, once you get it down, there are some advanced things that can really take things to the next level.
First kisses are the best. I love everything that leads right up to one.
I wish I had this guide when I was a teen LOL. It might have helped me out of a jam or two!
Totally feel the same way. These are good tips that would have been good to learn about 15 years ago.
I always felt that I had pretty good moves :)
It is funny how you mention using the tongue for just a regular kiss. Once that is happening you might as well be ready to tear the clothes off.
LOL, in some cases that is where you want to go in the first place!
Making your move is a great thing. I love the moment that you can tell a guy is about to kiss you. That is the best.
That is usually about the time I am going to crap myself with excitement. Especially if he is a hotty!
I like that there is a “guide” to the best kiss of all time. LOL, that just makes me think that I was missing something all this time.
Do you wish you could go back in time now and make changes to the way you kissed your man?
So many girls do not know how to kiss. Its almost like they need lessons!
I have never kissed a boy before, are you saying this guide will help me?
Oh yea, give it a try!
YES. You need to get started right away. You do not know what you are missing.
Kissing is a challenge at first, right? Then you have each person who has a different way of kissing. That leaves a lot of kissing types to master.
It used to come down to kissing for me as to whether I could stay with a guy or not. There are a few that I wish would have read these tips before we dated.
I loved kissing my ex-boyfriend when we were together, however there was one thing that bothered me a little bit. He would always slowly pull away from me. It was a weird feeling and I just took it very personal.
I Love to kiss and consider myself very good at it. It is a large part of any relationship that I am in and if the other person is not equally as good, that is a problem for me.
Me too, kissing has always been one of my favorite things to do.
My advice is to just take things slow. that really builds up the anticipation and lovely feeling you get when you kiss a guy for the first time.
That is good advice. Taking things slowly has never made a bad result.
I know my first kiss was pretty good :) It was also fun to talk about it like I didn’t know what I was doing at the time.
That sounds like a good thing! Did you have a boy that was willing to tell you how good that kiss was, or are you just basing that off the way that everything felt?
Man, that first kiss can be so good OR so bad LOL. These are good tips, but it helps more if the person you are trying to kiss is on the same page you are at the time :)
My first kiss was a major disaster LOL. This guide might have helped me back then.
Oh no! That does not sound good at all!
nice article
Yes it is. You have a nice little profile picture there. I wonder how your first kiss was.
I used to have a fear of the first kiss. Once I was finally ready and my g/f at the time was as well, it was a pretty smooth process.
That is good Carlos. Did your g/f like the process as well?
I love kissing. I was never one to really think this much about it, but you have good tips that I can see would help :)
This is a good guide, but is it really the “ultimate” guide?
Is it the “ultimate” guide? LOL. that is a great question.
The first kiss can be a real killer. I tend to take things much slower than others that I know, so the build up to the first kiss is so much more intense. If it is messed up the feeling afterwards is never good.
Oh yeah, if you are not on target, you could NEVER live that one down!
The after date kiss is a tough one to figure out. But, I like the tip you have about getting close to him. By doing that, you are showing him that you are interested and that a kiss might be in order.
Yeah it is. The situation can be so awkward that I tend to extend the date as long as I can to avoid it.
Ah, the first kiss. Something that has always been so fun to do.
I wish I could go back and do it all over again. It was not exactly something I like to share with my friends :)
I have been kissing guys for a long time and I have noticed that the best kisses are when you are BOTH into each other with 100%. These are good tips however to prepare yourself.
oh yeah, it helps when you both really like each other ;)
If the first kiss with a new guy is “mindblowing” there will be no problem with me :)
I agree. As soon as that first kiss is over, there are some decisions to make :)
I have been on the winning end of some nice kissing in my day. On the other hand, I have also had some bad times with a boy that I wish I could forget. I might have to send this to him as a point of reference.
We have all been down that road before. It is only going to get better if you can move along.
Kissing is essential to any relationship, without any doubt. If you are a bad kisser, time to start taking lessons because the chances are that it will turn a guy away from you.
I agree with you! I use it as a gauge to any relationship that I have had. The kissing MUST be good!
Kissing is a sort of art. Once you get it down, you think you are good, but kissing for each person is different. Each man and woman will have you switching up your game.
Soft lips are the bomb!
There is something getting a nice, long, soft kiss from a guy that has soft lips. Nothing nasty and dripping wet, but soft, barely touching type of kissing!
That first kiss, wow. That brings back memories. Of course, with my husband now I do not have to deal with this anymore, but my daughters are asking about it!
Totally, I am likely to be dating myself, but that was many years ago. Way before dating meant sex on the first date.
I am like everyone else here. The first move is such a nerve racking type of thing, I could barely stand it!
I am in the same boat. I hate being the aggressor and that might turn a few guys off here and there, but that is just how it is with me.
I love to kiss! If fact, I use it as a gauge as to whether second date is happening or not. That kiss is very important to me and it better be a good one :)
Getting the tongue a little too quickly was something that always turned me off. Soft, gentle kisses are the ones that I could deal with all day and night long :)
I long for the first kiss :) It was such a great experience when I was younger and to this day, it really gets me all worked up and ready to enjoy a new experience!
LOL. I think we can all remember a time when this was a bad situation to be in. Making that first move and screwing it up can live with you forever!
LOL, you got that right. I went through high school with a nickname I refuse to say now because I messed up a first kiss.
This can be a life changing event for a girl or a guy! If you do NOT do this right, you might be scarred for life and never forget it even though you will want to.
When I was getting ready for my first kiss, it was the most nerve racking thing of all time! I think you have good advice here and it will help girls through the first kiss.
Kissing is so much fun! I think it is a major part of having a good relationship, don’t you?
I do. It is very important to me and when I kiss a person I really like that means a lot to me when they are kissing back!
Personally, I use it as a gauge, sure.
Kissing is one of my favorite things to do. My b/f does not feel the same way however, but do you think that is enough of a reason to dump him?
Might not seem like a great, sole reason to dump him, but I would put that on the list for sure!
The first kiss in any relationship is so weird. You both know that you want to, but stare at each other like you are making a life changing decision right on the spot. These tips make it a little easier to take.
Such a dramatic thing for anyone to go through LOL. That first kiss could break you!
That is an understatement for sure! There are so many things going through your mind for something like this and if you mess up you could be in big trouble!