If you’re reading this – you probably have a guy in mind and you want to see if he likes you – so I’m going to get straight to the point.
Here are the most glaring, drop-dead giveaway signs a guy likes you:
1. He Treats You Differently Than How He Treats Other People
If he’s treating you differently, it means you’re special to him in some way. So if he’s normally talkative and social, but around you he’s shy… he might like you.
The opposite is also true. If he flirts with you, but he flirts with everyone, it’s not a sign that he likes you, because he isn’t treating you any differently than he treats everyone else.
2. He Flirts With You
Like I just said – if he flirts with EVERYONE, this isn’t a sign. But if he flirts with you when he sees you, it’s a pretty good sign that he’s at least a little bit interested.
And if he flirts through texting with you – and only you… even better.
3. He Goes Out of His Way to Spend Time With You
A guy who likes you is going to want to be around you. He’s going to want to spend time with you, because it’s going to feel good to him to spend time with you.
If a guy is always “busy”, it means you’re not high on his list of priorities. But if he’s always got time to see you, it means being with you feels good to him… which is a great sign he likes you.
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4. He Contacts You First
This ties back in with #3. Guys who are interested in you want to be around you – because it feels good for them to be around you.
So what does a guy who wants to be around you do? He calls you! He texts you! He makes plans to see you! And he doesn’t wait around and make you do all the work either.
5. He’s Genuinely Interested in What You Have to Say
If he’s interested in you, he’s going to be interested in what you have to say. And what your opinions are. And your sense of humor. And the things that fascinate you.
Point is, he’s going to be interested in you. Who you are, what you like, and yes, what you have to say.
6. He Laughs A Lot When He’s Around You
If he’s laughing, he’s feeling good. So if he’s laughing a lot when he’s around you, it means he’s feeling good a lot when he’s around you.
Which means you’re probably the one making him feel good. Which (like I said before), is a HUGE sign he likes you.
7. He Compliments You (Has called you hot, gorgeous, cute, pretty)
If he’s giving you compliments, it’s because he’s been thinking about you. You’ve been on his mind… and when he sees you, he can’t help but say what he’s thinking out loud.
That’s a VERY good sign.
8. He Doesn’t Mention Other Women
Let’s look at the opposite of this one. If he’s freely mentioning other women he’s interested in when he’s around you, it’s a dead giveaway that he’s not interested.
Why? Well, if he was interested, he wouldn’t do anything to screw up his chances with you, and that includes talking about his other crushes. (Unless he’s trying to make you jealous, which means he’s kind of a jerk).
9. He Gets a Bit “Jealous” If You Mention Another Guy
In the same vein as before, if he’s interested in you, he’s going to be hyper aware of any “competition” he has when it comes to your affections.
So if he perks up when you mention another guy, or makes a “joke”, or gets jealous – that’s great news for your chances with him.
10. He “Teases” You
I know, I know, it’s a little bit middle school, but as many women are no doubt well aware, there are a lot of guys out there who never grow up past middle school.
So if he’s “teasing” you, it might just be his (juvenile) way of letting you know he’s interested.
And if he asks you a few naughty questions, it means he’s very interested.
Now, I see the question of how to tell whether a guy likes you or not over and over in my inbox and to tell you the truth – it makes me want to tear my hair out.
Women must love House M.D. – because they do to relationships what House does to medical cases – break it down into microscopic bits and look at every tiny clue they can find to try to solve the “mystery.”
I understand where women are coming from, humans have a tendency to project what we want to see onto a situation.
So if a woman isn’t getting the obvious signs that a guy likes her, she’s going to make damn sure to find some… and if that means micro-analyzing everything he does – she’s going to talk to her inner House M.D. and think up all sorts of signs and symptoms that he’s secretly in love with her.
But here’s the thing…
When you have the right perspective about guys and dating – it becomes so simple to understand everything they do.
If I watch 30 seconds of how a guy acts around a woman, chances are I can tell whether he’s interested in her. So can you, once you stop obsessing and picking apart every little thing he does.
Not only is that frustrating and a huge waste of time, it’s also setting yourself up for a huge humiliating failure.
And before you jump down my throat with a cry of, “You just don’t under-staaaand!” I get it. When I was younger and I liked a girl I would sit and obsess and try to figure out whether she liked me or not. I would obsess about what questions to ask her and everything. I’m not saying it’s just women who do this – men do it too.
I like to call it the Analysis Black Hole. The more you feed it and try to analyze his behavior – the more you get sucked into it. And the closer you get to it, the harder it is to get perspective, and the harder it is to escape.
This is a really important concept – it will help you avoid untold amounts of misery and heartbreak down the line. For now – just remember: don’t get sucked into the analysis black hole.
A couple of years ago I got a text from a woman I had met a few days beforehand and exchanged numbers with.
The text read, “Woww, so you are a jerk. I’m glad I know the truth about you… I thought we had a connection but clearly not. ”
My crime? I hadn’t texted her in a few hours.
She had been sucked all the way down into the analysis black hole – and it crushed her to a pulp. I didn’t text her back, deleted her number and fed my phone into a garbage compactor.
I want to let you in on a secret: guys are not subtle.
There’s a reason why every video of a guy getting hit in the groin is so popular on Youtube. Men are not hard to please – and they’re not relationship masterminds.
If you think he’s a mastermind dropping subtle hints – just remember that he laughed like a hyena when his friend sent him “Funny tee-ball dad gets hit in nuts” on Youtube a few hours ago.
So remember: stop feeding the analysis black hole.
Fixating on every little thing he’s doing is going to make him feel weird around you – seriously. It gives off a weird vibe and kills his attraction to you.
I understand why you analyze signs, but it’s not going to help you get the guy you want. That’s because if you want a certain man to be attracted to you, you have to be proactive, not reactive.
That might sound complicated – but it’s actually really simple. When you’re reactive around the guy you want, you’re sitting back, “analyzing signs”, and allowing yourself to be a victim of circumstances. You have no power, no control over your relationship with him.
On the other hand, when you’re proactive, you’re actively doing things that are going to lead to the results you want – in this case having him be wildly attracted to you.
In life, it feels way better to be in control of a situation and actively going after the results you want, rather than sitting back, reacting, and hoping and worrying that you’re going to get what you want.
And at its heart, being proactive with the guy you want is really simple. If you want him to be deeply attracted to you – all that matters is the quality of time you spend with him.
Guys like to be around women who are happy – who are able to let go and have a good time.
A guy doesn’t want to be around a woman who’s trying to “decode” every little thing he’s doing – that’s not fun, that’s not comfortable, and that’s not carefree for him. It makes him feel like he’s walking on eggshells.
So if you want him to feel good around you – just let go of trying to figure him out and have fun with him in the moment.
That’s how you proactively make him more and more attracted to you – by making him feel really good around you. When a guy feels good around you, he wants to be around you more. Crazy, right?
Don’t focus on signs, signals, or clues – because he’s not dropping them.
Instead, focus on proactively having a really good time with him – and you’ll get the results you want, without all the stress, obsession, and worry.
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In summary…
The Biggest Signs A Guy Likes You
- He treats you differently than how he treats other people
- He flirts with you
- He goes out of his way to spend time with you
- He contacts you first
- He’s genuinely interested in what you have to say
- He laughs a lot when he’s around you
- He compliments you (has called you hot, gorgeous, cute, pretty)
- He doesn’t mention other women
- He gets a bit “jealous” if you mention another guy
- He “teases” you
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thanks for the advice!
I didnt realize that it makes them nervous when they see you analyzing them. Good advice
The list was something I read over and over in various site.. I do tend to analyze everything because I want to understand. I didn’t realize that it would be a problem so I am thankful that I did read till the end.
I think the lesson I learn is to not question everything and just let go.. love is complicated and I shall take one thing at a time.
I don’t know if the guy love or I love d guy but he comes to my house everyday
I don’t no if I love d guy and if d guy love me back he comes to my house everyday and when I see him my heart beat fast
I enjoy the time that I get to spend with the man that I’m romantically interested in it and he does every single one of these things on this list and that shows me he is interested in me and I’m glad he is the most kindest loving man I have ever met in my life and I would never give up on him and he knows who he is.
so theres this guy who holds my hands not like how he holds others’. he also became rude to me when he saw me getting very close to my cousin but he doesnt know that it was just my cousin. im confused does he like me or what LOL
he’s so unpredictable. one minute he’s friendly, another minute he’s being hostile.
Absolutely spot on ! Also freakishly surreal my new best advice giver! I am going through exactly the ‘before and after’ regarding black hole analysis and now saying enough of that foolishness to just being my light & genuine self again and have to tell you the latter , it’s the best thing ever! what will be will be :)
THANK YOU THANK YOU!!
All the way from nigeria, I read this article… I gotta admit that these point are really helpful.. I really do see these signs in this girl… But the question what’s the next step that will really prove I like back…. Bcos gals are little being sentimental sometimes
This article is amazing
These are good signs
I like a guy I work with. . I have all these signs but he is a natural flirt but he does flirt differently with Me.
But still hard to know if I imagine half of it ..wishfull thinking kinda thing
Though I’ve seen those signs, it still makes me wonder why that “guy” wants me to know other men, it’s confusing. Might be I’m a feeler
These signs are like getting hit in the head with a brick. If you cannot see them, you have other issues!
This article gives me great confidence and hope that a boy that I like, really likes me back.
I agree that guys are not subtle. Very good point.
Yea, they can be very forward. Sometimes, way too forward for me and I find myself pushing them away or giving them hints at that.
These are great signs to see. I think I could pick up on them very easily, however I know a few people that are lost unless you are pointing them out directly to them.
Even these are drop dead easy signs to spot from an outsider’s view, I would not say that every single person will see these at the right time.
Guys are not subtle, I can agree with that. some of them can be too forward, which just adds a little creep factor to things.
If all I need to do is watch out for these signs, I think I am going to be in luck, they seem easy to notice!
They are big red flags, that is for sure.
I have seen guys get a little jealous when mentioning other guys and I think it is cute. I am not going to lie, it is also a GREAT sign to see where he is at :)
When I try to meet guys, I get real awkward and I usually push them away.
This CAN be a mystery to some of us. However, I know that I over think everything and in the meantime, I am losing the guy and all the signs were right there.
I fall into this category. I have missed out on men that were after me because I am not trusting they really are interested in me.
Since I am the “guy” here, I would have to say these are pretty good signs to look out for. These are typical from my point of view if I like a girl as well. Keep in mind that you do not want to take it too far before you really know.
Very easy to see signs, in my opinion. When my girlfriends claim they cannot see the signs, I feel they are ones that really do not want to be with anyone right now.
I feel that way right now. I am not sure what I want, but I do not see signs like this either. I guess I should decide what I want and then how I can get that in my life.
Great, very easy to see signs and some of them I have recognized before, but I am still single :/
Then I feel that you are not getting the signs from someone that YOU really want.
Any woman would be excited to find a man flirting with her. Half the battle is done at that point, now you just have to take it a little further.
Hell yea it is. that is the best feeling in the world !
LOL, that teasing is so 5th grade, but it is true. Most men, or boys, will tease you a little bit if they are into you. I think it is because they feel that is a good way to get “in” with you.
When a guy approaches me and I get the feeling that he likes me or whatever, I start to freak out and think about way too many possibilities. The next thing I know we are married and have some kids…..in my head.
LOL, I am sure that you are not the only one that does this.
I agree that if a guy contacts you first that there is some interest from his end.
You would hope so. I had a very arrogant guy contact me first and it was because “he figured that I was into him”. What kind of crap is that?
These are great tips! It is hard enough to find someone that you are attracted to that feels the same way about you. Now you have to try and tell if the guy likes you or not.
I can certainly be called an over analyst when it comes to things like this. I have, however, been able to tame that a little and now things are easier for me.
A lot of woman are this way and there is nothing wrong with it, until you realize it is keeping you from getting the man of your dreams.